Julia Reid Coaching  ·  Reclaim You

Where Are You Really Right Now?

A wellness snapshot designed for high-achieving moms of neurodivergent kids — because you cannot pour from empty, and you deserve to know exactly where you're running low.

Takes about 5–7 minutes. No wrong answers. No judgment here.

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You're holding a lot. Your child's needs, your career, your household, your relationships — and somewhere near the bottom of that list, yourself. This assessment isn't about adding to your to-do list. It's about seeing yourself clearly — maybe for the first time in a while.

Rate each statement honestly based on where you actually are, not where you wish you were or think you should be.

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Critical Need
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Struggling
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Getting By
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Doing Well
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Thriving
Section 01
Physical Health
Your body is your foundation. Not as a performance metric — as the vessel carrying you through hard days.
My sleep is consistent and restorative — I wake up feeling like a person, not a zombie.e.g., 6–8 hours most nights, falling asleep without doomscrolling, not waking at 3am catastrophizing
I eat in a way that fuels me — not just whatever's fastest or left on my kid's plate.e.g., actual meals most days, intentional choices, not running on caffeine alone
My body gets some form of movement most weeks — in a way that feels good, not punishing.e.g., a walk, a class, stretching, dancing in the kitchen — anything that's yours
Section 02
Mental & Emotional Wellness
Stress is part of this life. The question is whether there's anything on the other side of it — relief, joy, restoration.
When a hard moment passes, I have ways to actually come down — my nervous system can settle.e.g., after a meltdown, a work crisis, or a hard conversation, you can eventually exhale rather than staying on high-alert for hours
I experience genuine moments of joy or lightness in my day — not just relief that nothing went wrong.e.g., laughing, looking forward to something, feeling proud, savoring a quiet moment
I have time that's genuinely mine — not just time when no one needs me yet.e.g., a morning ritual, a creative outlet, time to simply exist without a task attached
Section 03
Social Connection & Support
Parenting a neurodivergent child can be profoundly isolating. This section looks at whether you have people — not just followers or colleagues, but real ones.
I have at least one person I can be fully honest with — someone who gets what my life actually looks like.e.g., a friend, sibling, therapist, or community member who doesn't need you to sugarcoat it
I make time for friendships or community — not just when it's convenient for everyone else's schedule.e.g., a standing coffee date, a group chat that doesn't just share memes, showing up even when tired
I feel like I belong somewhere — a community where I don't have to explain or justify my reality.e.g., a neurodivergent parenting group, a faith community, friends who genuinely understand
Section 04
Parenting Confidence
Confidence here isn't about having it figured out — it's about feeling equipped, not just reactive.
I understand my child's brain well enough that difficult behaviors make sense to me, even when they're hard.e.g., you can name what's happening neurologically rather than feeling blindsided or frustrated every time
I have strategies I trust and reach for when things escalate — I'm not just winging it every time.e.g., co-regulation techniques, collaborative problem-solving, sensory tools, proactive routines
I feel capable of advocating for my child in schools, with professionals, and in systems that weren't built with them in mind.e.g., IEP meetings, medical appointments, communicating with teachers — you can hold your ground
When I lose my cool or get it wrong, I can repair with my child and move forward without spiraling in guilt.e.g., you can apologize, reconnect, and not spend the next three days convinced you've damaged them
Section 05
Work & Life Integration
This isn't about balance — that's a myth. It's about whether your work life and home life are in a sustainable conversation, or at war.
I have boundaries around my work time that I can actually protect — at least most of the time.e.g., not answering Slack at dinner, not taking calls during school pickup, having an end to the workday
My work feels meaningful, not just like survival — there are days I feel engaged, not just depleted.e.g., moments of purpose, using strengths, feeling like more than just "getting through it"
I have support systems or delegation in place so that my responsibilities don't all fall only on me.e.g., grocery delivery, a partner who carries load, household help, a team at work you can lean on
Section 06
Self-Compassion & Personal Growth
A note before this section, because it matters:
Self-compassion isn't self-indulgence or weakness. Research by Dr. Kristin Neff at UT Austin shows it's one of the strongest predictors of resilience, better parenting, and sustained high performance. It simply means treating yourself with the same basic decency you'd offer a friend going through what you're going through. For many high-achieving moms of neurodivergent kids, this is the most unfamiliar territory of all — and often the most transformative.
When I make a mistake or fall short, I can acknowledge it without making it mean something terrible about who I am.e.g., "I handled that badly" rather than "I am a bad mom" — and actually believing it
I believe I am allowed to have needs, wants, and a life of my own — not just in theory, but in practice.e.g., you don't feel guilty for spending money on yourself, for resting, for wanting things that have nothing to do with your kids
I have a sense of who I am outside of being a mom and a professional — and I'm actively nurturing that person.e.g., a hobby, an interest, a dream, something that's yours alone — even if it's just a small flame right now
Section 07
Family Dynamics & Household
The household is a system. This section looks at whether that system has any breathing room — or whether you're the one holding it all together with nothing left.
Our household has enough structure and routine that things run — even if it's not perfect.e.g., mornings don't feel like a daily emergency, there are rhythms that carry the family without you orchestrating everything
I've found ways to outsource or simplify tasks that don't need to be done by me personally.e.g., online grocery ordering, meal delivery, a cleaning service, automated bills — anything you've stopped doing manually
There is space in our family life for connection and joy — not just appointments, therapies, and logistics.e.g., moments of lightness, family traditions that are actually fun, time together that isn't crisis management
Optional Section
Intimate Connection & Partnership
Whether you're partnered, co-parenting separately, or navigating this chapter as a solo parent — this section invites you to reflect on intimate connection and what you want. Skip it if it's not relevant to where you are right now.
I feel genuinely connected to my partner (or to the idea of partnership) — not just co-managing logistics.e.g., conversations that aren't about the kids, moments of tenderness, feeling like you're on the same team
The load of neurodivergent parenting is shared (or I have a clear picture of what I want it to look like).e.g., your partner is genuinely involved in appointments and strategy — or you've had honest conversations about what you need
I can be honest about what I need in a relationship — even if I'm still figuring out what that looks like.e.g., expressing needs without shutting down, having the conversation rather than hoping someone notices

There are no right answers here. Only honest ones.
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Your Wellness Web

This is your snapshot — not a verdict. Every area that's low is simply a place where there's room to grow. And growth, in our work together, always starts with you.

Your current wellness landscape

A few questions to sit with

These aren't homework. They're invitations. Take what resonates.

1.Look at your lowest-scoring area. What would it mean for your life — and your parenting — if that number were even one point higher six months from now?
2.Where on this web are you carrying something that doesn't actually need to be yours alone? What would it take to set it down, or share it?
3.If your child could see this web, what would you want them to see there for you — and what do you want to model for them about what it looks like to take care of yourself?
4.Which area surprised you most — either higher or lower than you expected? What does that tell you?
5.What's one thing — just one — you could do this week that your web is asking for?
Here's What Working Together Looks Like

Your web doesn't have to
stay this shape.

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